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The Epidemic of Throw-Away Hearts

So many people chase after an entirely false definition of success and in so doing, grow this culture of usery that not only permeates their professional lives but rapidly carries-over to their personal lives, reeking havoc. As a result most of us are starved for authenticity, affection and affirmation.

I believe it to be the epidemic that is destroying us from within. None of us are immune.

It has become so bad and dark these days. Perhaps it’s because of my perspective at 52 years of age and so many experiences already behind me. Two failed marriages, one failed engagement and a plethora of failed relationships, mostly due to my own stupid fears, and well, just being dumb. I’m talked about as an “embarrassment to the family name.”

I see it differently, especially in light of the lesson I am about to share. And the fact that I am a single, full-time dad of teenage daughters.

From all those learning experiences I can now clearly and unequivocally state the absolute disdain I have for the casual, business-like approach these days toward human intimacy. How can that lead to anything good? Seriously. Has it ever?

The damage being done is catastrophic and everyone is afraid to talk about it.

The human heart is sacred. It’s where the soul resides in this earthly existence. To play with someone’s heart – as if it were disposable like a plastic water bottle – will ALWAYS, ALWAYS lead to a blackness that no amount of money or self-medication will conquer. In fact both will bury the pit that much deeper!

I speak from very painful experience. I know this to be true.

Everyone now has accepted life as one, big episode of “Survivor.” “I’m going to get mine and to hell with you.”

There is only one way out of that kind of life, if you can even call it a life.

See, that’s what is so depressing these days. Back in my 20s I went overboard with those stupid, stupid behaviors. I hurt people. I carry that to this day and always will. The difference today is that I see people well into their 50s and 60s doing it even more than when they were younger!

We’ve created these corporate/social environments that actually promote the very behavior that rips apart loving relationships and families, all in the name of profit and this demented view of “success.”

Kids are imitating it in schools and on college campuses. They are being taught that treating people as objects to be used for their own benefit is perfectly fine. The hook-up culture must be ok because they see their parents doing it, right?

Social media has intensified the game while furthering the detachment.

It is not ok. It is dark. It is wrong. It is evil.

For those you mistakenly believe that there’s nothing wrong with the dismal path of human usery, keep going and just see where you end up. I am going to fight for the real deal. I will keep the fire. I refuse to settle for anything less. Let love hold.

If you are reading this and it is hitting close to home, it is not too late to turn in the right direction.

Please.

I now know where I stand.